Description: In which Laura, Natalie, and Connor and the rest of the youth group embarks on the Winter Retreat and Laura tells Connor she is not interested in him romantically.
Why do these things always happen to me? It’s like, if you’re that one girl who tries to avoid drama, it follows you. And I don’t mean in a good, reality-show kind of way – in the bad, this-is-one-of-the-worst-weekends-of-my-life sort of way. You see, it just so happened that Connor enjoyed youth group so much that he kept coming – every week. It didn’t take long for his mystery-factor to deplete considerably. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I can’t handle that clingy, ‘Let’s be together every minute of every day’ type of guy. It’s like they take lessons from Edward Cullen on how to be a good boyfriend. And yes, I’ll give you that Edward’s the absolute perfection when it comes to undead significant others, but for real life, things should be different. So when Connor started texting me every minute after (and before) school, sitting with me on the bus, chatting me on Facebook, and coming weekly to my youth group, I realized that maybe I didn’t like him so much after all.
One Thursday, Nat and I videochatted while I got ready for the aforementioned youth group.
“So how was your day?” asked Nat, obviously joking, since we had spent the day in its relative entirety together.
I laughed, “Well, pretty boring, actually. I spent most of it with this insufferable girl at my school that calls herself Natalie…”
“Huh. I didn’t see her. That sounds pretty lame, though.”
“It sure was – I’m surprised you didn’t notice her. She was pretty hard to miss.” I inspected my skin in the large mirror at my vanity, dabbing concealer here and there, scrutinizing my every pimple and blackhead.
“So, was Connor the same today?” Nat wanted to know. I rolled my eyes pointedly at my webcam and nodded.
“I seriously don’t know what I’m going to do,” I said as I blended blush into my cheeks, “He’s definitely going on the Winter Retreat, and I just know he’ll want to be together every second. I don’t even really enjoy his company. He’s more than a little bit awkward. And he has this thing about personal space – as in, he doesn’t understand how it works.”
Nat chuckled, “You and your personal space.”
“For real, though! It’s a serious problem.”
“Weren’t you the one who told him he should come when he was on the fence about it?”
“Yeah, but that’s because I didn’t want to be the one who got in the way of him having an experience with God, you know? That’s a big deal.” I patted some eye shadow on with my ring finger and looked at Nat, or rather, my computer screen, “I didn’t want the responsibility of keeping him from God.”
She sighed. “Yeah, I guess. But it’s gonna be rough. I mean, it’s tomorrow that we’re leaving.”
I pulled out my mascara, carefully running it through my lashes, and said, “Just as long as you’ll be there, I’m ok.”
~~~~~
“Hi, Laura! Can we sit together on the ride there?” I turned. It was Connor – not a huge surprise.
“Umm…I’m not sure, I think Natalie really wanted me to sit with her,” probably true, “– but you could always get a seat nearby.” He looked slightly like I had told him his childhood pet had just been hit by a car.
“How about on Sunday, when we’re coming back?” He asked, “Can we sit together then?”
I was caught off guard.
“Um, yeah, sure.” What else could I say? ‘Connor, I really don’t like spending time with you. Everything you do annoys me.’ Probably not the nicest thing. As everyone started to arrive and congregate outside of the church, I looked closely for Nat. We would be leaving in a short time, and I really, really wanted to sit with her.
“You know, your hair’s a really interesting color.” Connor again.
“Okay?” I wasn’t sure if this was a compliment, but coming from him, the odds of it being an insult were very slim.
“It’s sort of blond, but then other times it seems more like light brown.”
“Oh. Thanks, I think.” Long silence.
“So, is your friend Natalie going to be here soon?” He asked, probably just to get us out of this dull impasse between awkward comments.
“Yep, she should be.” Silence.
And then she was. “Hey guys! What’s up? Should we get on the bus? How long till we leave?” How I loved that girl. I had asked her to be extra bubbly (without weirding Connor out too much) so that there wouldn’t need to be an extensive amount of talking that only involved me and Connor.
“Sure, let’s get on. Want to sit in the back?” The others agreed that was best.
“Hey, Laura,” Connor teased, “This sure seems familiar …”
“Hah, that’s right. Us and school buses, huh?” Pause.
“Hey guys, let’s play never have I ever! I love that game!”
‘What would I do without her?’ I thought. And so we passed the two and half hours or so playing those delightful middle school games, until we finally pulled up to the place we would be spending the weekend – a Christian camp in the middle of Kentucky-nowhere.
The next two hours or so was spent moving into our rooms and getting something to eat in the cafeteria. I had been placed with Nat and two other girls that I knew vaguely from school. One of them especially gave me cause to worry – she had some serious back-stabber vibes. It’s hard to explain; Becca was too effusive, too ready to agree with everyone, and extra attentive to Nat. I’m not usually any more possessive of friends than the next girl, but since Nat was my only real friend at school, I worried. By nine-thirty, everyone headed downstairs to this much-too-small, damp, slightly musty room to hear from our speaker, a pastor from Georgia. He talked to us about having as much passion for the Lord’s way of doing thing as Jesus was. I don’t remember much from that night’s session – the combination of my worries about what this weekend would be like with Connor and whether my rooming situation would work out, and whether I would be able to sleep that night distracted me from really listening.
After the session, we had some time to spend in the common area shared between the guys and girls. When I plopped myself down on one of the couches, Connor followed suit. I considered renaming him ‘Shadow.’ This time Nat wouldn’t be there to buffer the space between us – she had announced to the world that she would need a shower before doing anything else whatsoever.
“The speaker’s really good, don’t you think?” Connor asked. Looking around at the others involved in various things – card games, playing guitar, and puzzles – I had a twinge somewhere deep down that I was being unkind and unfair to Connor. It wasn’t his fault that he liked me so much. But at that point, I didn’t care. I wanted to be selfish – to enjoy myself and not have to worry about offending him. Turning to face him on the couch, I said, “Connor, we need to talk.”
“What?”
“We need to talk about your liking me.” He just smirked. I shook my head, “No, really, I’m serious. I have this thing about not dating in high school.”
“Yeah, you’ve told me this. And I’m okay with it.”
“No, that’s not what I mean.” I sighed, “I think you should know . . .” How to finish?
“You can say it.” He nudged, looking completely puzzled.
“You’ve been a good friend,” I began slowly, “But I think you should know I’m not really interested in you…romantically.”
I hadn’t touched him, but the way he looked at me, you’d think I had hauled off and slapped him right on the face.
“Oh.” He said after awhile. I thought maybe the subject was closed for discussion for the time being – better than I could have expected. But no.
“But, I thought you liked me.” He started, then went on, “Everything that’s happened since I met you has been really good for me. Having you for a friend, going to your youth group – just everything.”
“And we can still be friends, of course, and all that. I just feel like you should know…my feelings.”
“And that’s just the way it is…?” He finished.
“Sort of, yeah. I’m sorry. I just thought you should know.”
“But we can still spend the weekend together, right?” I knew he was going to ask this. I had been waiting for it – but now that he had said it, what could I say?
“Well, I do want you to get to know some people besides me, maybe make some guy friends. Who are you rooming with?”
“Three other guys..one’s name is Seth, I think. Yeah, Seth something.” Of course. Seth. My biggest fan.
“That’s cool. Maybe you could spend some time with them? And then we can talk more about it tomorrow.” He looked even more downcast. “Listen, Connor, I need to go to my room – curfew’s in a few minutes. But just know that I think you’re a great guy and we can still be friends.”
He just nodded as I got up. I had a sickening feeling that everything was not okay.